I am so proud of myself. Proud of who I am and what I stand for. I have a newfound confidence that gives me the courage to truly be myself.
I have been doing a lot of inner work, over the past 6 months, and I can feel a shift in myself. I no longer feel like a failure if I see someone else succeeding in life. I genuinely feel happy for them. These things seem so simply but they are life changing.
The best way I can describe it is having a sense of peace. I am up leveling to the next version of myself, and I am so excited to see what that entails.
Growing up, I always envisioned myself being a go getter and killing it at life. I am finally becoming that person and it feels so liberating. The major changes that I have implemented are:
1) Daily Affirmations – Every single day I give myself a pep talk….. “I am confident. I am loved. I have everything I need to succeed. God has got my back and He is making a way for me.”
2) Journaling – I learned about this thing where you write out how you are feeling or about a problem you are having. Without even realizing you write out the answer to your issue. It was the craziest thing, but I was feeling super overwhelmed and insignificant, one night. I decided to write about it and I was literally able to identify the root of my negative feelings because it just came out as I was writing. I started crying as the words were flowing through me. I had no idea that I was bottling up so much. Journaling is a great way to get out of your own head space and see things more clearly.
3) Reflecting before Reacting (I have done a previous post about this with more details) – Before reacting to something, in a negative way, I like to think – I mean really think – about where the person is coming from. There is some reason why they said that thing or did something annoying. Most times it comes from a much better place than what you initially think. And most things are rooted from childhood. It becomes much easier to interact with someone when you understand where they are coming from. Example) Kara gets mad when Sally and Erica talk. Initial response is, Kara is not very nice. Actually no… Kara is afraid that Sally and Erika will become better friends, therefore Kara gets left out. Connections are very important to Kara because she has lost members of her family and is alone a lot. Knowing how people work is very powerful. You can have better interactions with them and have a more fruitful relationship.
4) Me Time/Meditating – As a mom, wife, and a fulltime employee, things get hectic. It is so nice to start the day off with some me time. Sitting on the deck after my husband leaves for work and before our son wakes up is the golden time for me. It is only about 15 minutes but I thoroughly enjoy those precious moments. It gives me a chance to read the Bible, take some deep breaths, and enjoy the fresh air.
The recent routines I have implemented are simple but have, honestly, been game changers for my mental health, relationships, and becoming the best version of myself.
❤️Always,
Tori